He proposes, she accepts, they kiss.  Before their lips even part, her brain is already swarming with ideas for the wedding!  After some internet research, the couple go together, hand in hand, to interview different vendors.  At the meeting, the bride asks millions of questions while the groom sits there silently.   After a long interview and a plethora of questions asked, the bride seems satisfied but turns to the groom and asks for his opinion.  He mumbles “Uh…. I don’t know.  It’s fine I guess.  I really don’ care.” . The bride then second guesses her choice of vendor because her fiancé’s reaction and they leave the meeting, contract unsigned, date unreserved and with the burden of a looming argument once they reach home.

I have asked a former couple how they made it through their wedding planning successfully? The Bride said, because her husband made one thing clear from the start: if he said “I don’t care” about something, it means he truly doesn’t care and he doesn’t need to ask 40 questions.  They agreed that the phrase “I don’t care” would not be used negatively, it would simply be used if they didn’t have strong feelings either way for the subject they were discussing. 

The point I’m trying to make is this as a Wedding Photographer:

Don’t second guess your decision on a vendor you love just  because your fiancé doesn’t have an opinion.  There’s a good chance that they simply don’t care and they are just happy to know that you are happy.

This is especially true with wedding photography!  Most grooms will check out a photographers website, take a quick 10-second look, and say “Okay, that’s fine”.  A bride, however, will spend hours if not days looking at the site, analyzing the pictures, the lighting, the composition, the overall style.  On the wedding day, the bride will be loving every minute of picture taking, while the groom could care less – he’s just looking forward to the booze at the reception.

So when it comes to booking your vendors especially a wedding photographer, please hear me out, brides:  There’s no point in forcing your fiance to “choose” something they simply don’t care about because there’s a very good chance that they have no strong opinion and will simply be happy to know that you’re happy!

Check out some of our happy couples here

And for the Grooms if you are all about the party Check out this DJ here

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